Feeling at home in your body (<--i adore this phrase)
The way to feel at home in your body isn’t to constantly be trying to keep your body at or get your body to a certain size.
We can get so attached to our body looking a certain way or staying a size X, but it seems foolish to get attached to our bodies when they are supposed to change throughout a lifetime.
I guess a big issue is we are taught that we should be constantly trying to stay the same body size. The idea of “fitting back into your high school jeans” is actually a terrifying concept to me. You were a child in high school and the body of a child should be different than that of a 20, 30, 40, 50, 60, 70, 80 year old woman.
So this all leads to the question of: should we get attached to something that is meant to change?
Since the body is supposed to change throughout a lifetime, is getting value and worth from one’s body size an intelligent decision? Or is it foolish?
Is the decision to find your value and worth in your body size going to set you up to be constantly disappointed as you age and your body flows in directions it is supposed to? I don’t know about you, but I have zero interest in being a person who fights the gains and losses my body continues to experience in fatness level, muscle mass, and/or pant size as my life and age changes. My interest is to take care of my health and I’m okay with the fact that, that doesn’t guarantee a thin body. Having a thin body never helped me feel more at home and comfortable in my body.
So instead of attaching to a certain body size / pant size, I think we should be attaching to the idea that bodies are made to change. If you accept the idea that bodies are made to change, you are more likely to begin feeling at home (aka comfortable) in your body as it shifts. It’s also worth remembering that spending your life trying to control your weight is essentially a constant attempt to be someone else.
Any thoughts on this? Would love to hear comments on:
- When one’s identity and worth is connected to staying the same body size that can make body changes especially difficult to tolerate. I’m sure some of your have thoughts/comments on your (past or present) identity being tied to your body size.
- What are you currently doing to feel at home in your body?
As always, would love to get a good conversation going in the comments section :) You guys are good at asking for support / giving support to each other and I love seeing it.