This past weekend Andrew’s parents took us out to Perry’s Steakhouse to celebrate Andrew’s birthday. My parents were watching Jojo and this was the first time someone else was putting her down for her bedtime and I was ready to enjoy the evening out without having to wear a nursing friendly top. Woohoo!!!!! lol
The meal started with a spicy margarita for me at the bar. Easily one of my favorite drinks. I love tequila drinks, but am NOT a fan of whiskey drinks.
Once we got to our table we enjoyed a seafood appetizer for the table.
Then I had a wedge salad and some bread.
And then a glass of wine.
For my meal I ordered the legendary pork chop. Have you ever had it? It has 3 different parts – ribs, a super tender part that I don’t know what it’s called, and the loin.
We ordered family style sides for the table – brussels, au gratin potatoes and steamed asparagus.
Then dessert was a trio of treats that I didn’t find super special and wouldn’t order again.
When we finished the meal, I was overly full and I’m sure everyone else was too, but we didn’t sit around and talk about it…we were there to enjoy.
While I could give you ideas for being present while eating and having awareness of when you’re full (i.e. when you are walking into a restaurant, visualize how full you’d like to be when you walk out of the restaurant), I thought sharing this experience would be a good reminder that some eating experiences are not about eating until comfortably full. They are about adding more joy to your life through food and sometimes that mean ending up overly full.
I do think there are different types of overeating. There is:
- pleasurable overeating
- chaotic overeating
Pleasurable overeating is what I’m talking about here. A meal eaten with the intention of enjoying. While chaotic eating happens in reaction to deprivation or if you are trying to not feel something and want to use food and the feeling of fullness to numb out. There are multiple types of deprivation with food…
- physical deprivation – under feeding yourself
- mental deprivation – merely labeling a food as bad is more likely to lead you to overeating that food
Either deprivation type can lead to you getting stuck in the restrict-overeat cycle. I lived that cycle for years and I’m sure some of you have too so you know that it’s not super pleasurable.
Your body can handle pleasurable overeating from time to time. You don’t have to restrict leading up to the event or restrict following the event. Your body will let you know what it needs if you’re willing to be curious and calm enough to listen. The thing about fullness is, while sometimes uncomfortable, it goes away without you having to do anything to make it go away. And then your body will need to be fed again.
I’m all for developing ways to cope with stressors in life that don’t involve food or exercise and I’m also all for sometimes enjoying a massive meal with people you love. Sure, meals with other can be about connection, but there is nothing wrong with them being about enjoying the food experience too.
I was super in love with my palm leaf pants, but Maggie ripped a hole in them when I got home…so they probably won’t be worn out of the house again. Lame.