How do you treat something you appreciate vs. something you hate.
Packing up all of our things in preparation for our move has made me think about how I treat things I appreciate vs. how I treat things I’m ready to pass along to Goodwill.
The things I appreciate I care for them well by thinking about how to pack them in a way that best protects them. I visualize where they’ll go in our future home and am excited to have them in my life. Things I’m ready to get rid of I throw into a pile across the room to bag up later and don’t give them much care or thought.
When you like something, you’re naturally going to treat it better. Whereas something you hate you’re likely not going to respect or care for well.
And that brings me to a journal prompt for you…
This post isn’t to make you feel hopeless and like you could never appreciate your body. It is to encourage you to take steps to be kind to your body. Changing your perspective on your body takes time and patience. But at some point you will come to the conclusion that…
I saw Marci post the above from Isabel and I thought it was so good. At some point you realize constantly trying to make your body something it isn’t meant to be isn’t getting you anywhere sustainable. It always leads you back to the pursuit of something that you may have momentarily had once, but aren’t actually meant to be. This pursuit may seem harmless, but it can be highly distracting…keeping you from fully participating in your life.
The only sustainable option is working to like yourself just as you are. And “just as you are” may change and take some getting used to through the years. I remember in pregnancy I got supervision from another clinician because I was having trouble adjusting to my expanding body. I was feeling frustrated I wasn’t always easily embracing my blooming body and I was reminded that it’s okay to need practice being kind to another body size. I had never been before what I was then. There was more of me and that took some getting used to. My body was different, but different isn’t bad.
If you’re up for sharing, I’d love to see your responses to the above journal prompt in the comments section. Also, what are the beliefs you have about weight and your body size that are keeping you from appreciating your body? Why do you need your body to look different to be able to care for it well and engage in healthful behaviors?