A better way to think about getting seconds.
The mentality that eating less is always what we should be striving for can be deeply ingrained in some of us. This can mean going back for seconds, whether at meal or snack time, is setting you up for a guilt-ridden rest of your day.
A better way to reframe getting seconds is thinking that, “these aren’t seconds, I just didn’t get enough firsts.” As in, I didn’t get enough the first time I loaded up my plate. If we needed the same exact amount of food each day, we’d never need seconds, but since we need differing amounts of food on differing days, seconds are a normal part of life.
Reframing going back for seconds to the above, instead of staying stuck in the untrue and unhelpful mentality of “now I’m eating extra”, can be very useful for getting you to a place of finding satisfaction and fullness from food rather than deprivation and guilt.
To go in a healthier direction, you have to disrupt where your thoughts have been going. If the above is something you struggle with, asking a loved one to remind you of this by saying this out loud when you/they go back for seconds OR putting a reminder on a sticky note on your fridge could be helpful.
This reframing is a way to nurture yourself and not your disordered eating. Have you ever thought about getting seconds in this way?