When people say, “that food is my weakness.”
Welcome to another edition of, “phrases that annoy me!”
I dislike when people say, “that food is my weakness,” because it just doesn’t make any sense to me.
How can you call a biological need a weakness?
If you breathe an adequate amount of air, you don’t have to gasp for air. If you eat an adequate amount of ALL foods, you don’t end up ‘gasping’/overeating/feeling crazy around particular foods. If you don’t rule out any food, then you (eventually) don’t feel insane around it. It’s also good to remember that all food serves a purpose and sometimes that purpose is pleasure. Being able to eat food because it sounds good and not because you are hungry is a component of having a healthy (non-neurotic) relationship with food.
If you have to pee but don’t get up and go pee, all you think about is peeing! If you have a food you are craving and don’t eat it, all you will think about is that food. So just like you should go pee when you have to pee, you should eat food you are craving when you are craving it (always worth checking in on emotional vs. physical hunger and YOU deciding what is the best way to care for yourself in that moment – sometimes eating a cupcake because you had an emotional day just works. There’s nothing wrong with that happening as long as you’re aware of when it’s happening and have alternative coping mechanisms for stress/emotions/discomfort in place as well).
It’s good to remember that cravings are like itches. When you have an itch you scratch it, just enough, to make the itch stop itching. When you have a craving you should eat the food you are craving, just enough, to satisfy the craving.
So back to the title of this post…I just don’t get how any food can be a weakness, since any food you name is a protein, carb and/or a fat and you need all 3 of those macronutrients to sustain life. If a food is a weakness, then you better start saying that breathing air is a weakness.
I realize some of you may be fearful of adding in ALL foods due to nutrition myths that have made you feel insane about feeding your body, fear that your body can’t digest certain foods, fear that your body is going to change size, etc….
But if you want to stop feeling insane around food. You’re going to have to feel uncomfortable for awhile. Uncomfortable/anxious with adding a wider variety of foods in, adding foods in regularly that you’ve binged on, etc. It will probably feel wrong to eat all foods if you are coming from a school of thought that says certain foods are good/bad. You’ll be uncomfortable…but you won’t be unsafe. There’s comfortable, uncomfortable, and unsafe. Instead of running away from the uncomfortable feeling, you’ve gotta be okay with it being there and you feeling it. With my clients, recovery from disordered eating is purposefully structured to make them feel uncomfortable. If you’re not uncomfortable in the early stages of getting away from disordered eating/exercise, you may need to make a change. Eventually the uncomfortableness is replaced with connection to your healthy self’s intuition and with that comes feelings of ease and relief.
I want you to discover what it feels like to not have disordered eating or disordered exercise. And that’s why I write this blog.