a sense of “I’m not trying to get my body anywhere.”
For me, I’ve found the best approach to caring for my body is when I can cultivate a sense of: I’m not trying to get my body anywhere. I take care of my here and now body well, but I don’t have overarching goals of where I’m trying to get it to. I don’t do this perfectly all the time, but I was reflecting recently on how when I can fully be in this mindset it is the most healthy. Always being in pursuit of a body that is different than the body you have is going to keep one very distracted and frenzied.
It’s such a different way of living within your body than is promoted by most. Our culture encourages weight loss and body change as indicators of success, while just being in your body and finding health promoting behaviors that work for you isn’t popular.
In my time postpartum time since having Ella, I’ve noticed I’ve become more comfortable when my body is transitioning and expanding with a growing life, than when I’m just letting it be at it’s set point. I don’t think it’s so much that I don’t trust my body to stay around my set point, I think it’s more that this body feels kinda boring. Growing a baby is such a sensational and fun thing (in my experience) to do with my body, so now just being in my body feels kinda boring. There are some types of movement I can do now that I can’t do while pregnant, and that’s fun, but nothing beats getting to have your body expand with a new life inside of it.
It reminds me of the idea from Fulfilled on how our bodies can’t fulfill us. The author states that the issue isn’t that our bodies are too big, it’s that our bodies are too small to ever fulfill us. While being in my body now feels kinda boring, and not as sensational as growing a baby, I think that’s kind of the point. That is, for the body to just be a body and not be something that occupies your mind much. It drives me to find enjoyment in areas that can actually fulfill me, like being in relationship with Christ, family, friends and neighbors. It’s like, letting my body run and do it’s thing in the background of my life, but not having it be my life.
What do you think?