This is a post I’ve been mulling over for a long time too. Last week I talked about how I believe that you (and me) deserve to have a positive opinion of yourself that does not change when you see a photo of yourself you don’t like. So that brings me to this post.
About two years ago I was hanging out with a friend of mine. She was telling a story about someone who gave her a compliment about something and then she said, “but that isn’t my favorite thing about myself.”
It caught me off guard. At the time I’d never really thought about what my favorite thing about myself was. I believe we deserve to have a positive opinion of ourselves that does not change when we get on a scale or see a photo of ourselves we don’t like.
For me, I like how I’m able to have self-compassion. I like how I’ve created more space in my life to be kind to myself. My default is to be very judgemental about whatever I’m going through or feeling, so I like the part of me that practices being more self-compassionate and not being filled with self-hatred. Life is already hard enough and is so much harder if I’m not even rooting for me. I like that these days I have more grace for myself.
I’ve asked family/friends what is there favorite thing about themselves. Some like their optimism and one said his favorite thing about himself is that he’s been chosen by God.
So if you had to choose your favorite part about you, what would it be?
My disordered eating and drive to become thinner couldn’t survive in an ocean of self-compassion. I hope you don’t spend your life trapped in your disordered eating or desire to become smaller…never getting to meet the wonderful bits of you that your disorder behaviors are keeping you from.