a way to live according to your values in 2019
With arguably the biggest go-on-a-diet push just around the corner on New Years Day, I thought it’d be timely to share an activity that can set you up for a healthful and empowering 2019. An activity to help you live according to what you value. If you’d like to read a post on Why Not to Go on a Diet This Year...there it is.
This post was born out of my love for hearing about other people’s schedules. Since becoming a mom I now specifically like hearing how other moms make work and life fit together. This Fall I started reading a book called I Know How She Does It by Laura Vanderkam. The book discusses the findings from The Mosaic Project, a project which involved collecting and analyzing time logs from women who earned more than $100,000/yr and had at least one child (under age eighteen) living at home. Vanderkam found women who had “placed the tiles of their professional and personal worlds together in ways that [gave] them space to strive towards their dreams at work and home.” The book shares numerous time logs from these women and I found it so interesting to see the different ways these mom’s pieced their lives together to align with their values.
So I decided to track my time and wanted to share. If you can’t read the below you may need to click on the time log and then zoom in. If you’d like to track your own time, you can get access to Vanderkam’s time tracker here.
I’d say the week I tracked was pretty typical for me. The two differences were that 1) I wasn’t feeling well and 2) Jo was with me Thursday morning and she is typically with one of her grandmas that day. So that impacted a few areas, but nothing too drastic. I found I:
- mom-ed 70 hours (playing, reading, meals together, Andrew was with us helping some of this time + a lot of this time is multitasking – housework while watching Jo, running errands while watching Jo, etc.)
- slept 59 hours (8.4 hr/night average – YAY!)
- worked 25 hours (clients or blog)
- watched TV 6 hours
- bible studied 5 1/2 hours
- therapy / doctor appt 2 1/2
Overall I feel pretty good about how I spend my time.
I don’t always find at-home mom-life super fulfilling, which I think is normal, but this is something I want to think about going into 2019. When I think about being more joyful in motherhood I think I need to be around other mom’s who are in similar life stages more often. A tagline for a local mom’s group is “it takes a village to raise a mom.” Made me laugh, but I feel it’s very true. I have to remind myself that this stage of life I’m in right now is temporary. We have ZERO plans of homeschooling, so in 4 years Jo will be in school. We want more children (not sure how many more – Andrew and I would give you a different answer if asked). But accepting the slow (yet exhausting) pace and demanding nature of motherhood has been a struggle for me. Right now, I prefer the majority of my time to be with Jo (and am glad this is an option for us), but I think the exact amount of work I do will continue to shift for the next 5-10 years. Seeing clients 2 days a week for me is a constant I like having, but blog work and other creative endeavors will flux in amount of time spent on them depending on the sacrifice motherhood will call me to make. I’d like to find a bible study workbook on motherhood, but I haven’t come across any that look right. Any recommendations?
I want the majority of 2019 to be about obedience to God, which I do think my work falls under (God has given me a great plot of land to serve – helping women lay down the idol of their body and self that has resulted from living in our broken world). I’d also like to be more diligent with bible studying, which I think may have me looking for a second kid-friendly bible study to help keep me accountable.
Health is also a value of mine and something I’ll continue pursuing. From week to week different things will get prioritized based on my needs and available time – doctors appt, sleep, therapy, recharge time, and movement all fall into the health category.
Instead of seeking body change in 2019, identifying your values and tracking your time to be sure you are living according to what you value may be a better use of your year.
Happy New Year to all! This is the last post of 2018. I look forward to another year with all of you in 2019!