how 35 weeks pregnant is feeling and looking (aka October pregnancy update)
I hit the 35 weeks mark on Saturday! You can find all my previous pregnancy updates here. Here’s what’s been going on pregnancy-wise lately…
Andrew’s mom (Sally!) and her good friend threw me a fabulous baby shower this weekend.
The house the shower was hosted at was GORGEOUS. Just look at this kitchen + those windows + that door!!
Here are a few photos from the shower (courtesy of our friend, Mrs. Wilson<3):
For the whole pregnancy Andrew has been telling me, “you still need to get way bigger.” This weekend he started telling me that he thinks I’m getting to be just about the right size lol. I agree :) We’re definitely in the home stretch!
Family photo! Left to right: Andrew’s aunt, cousin’s sweet little girl, cousin, ME!, Sally, Molly (aka Andrew’s sis).
Favorite shower gifts were a tie between this diaper bag…
Most of the movement I’m doing at this point is stretching. My chiropractor mentioned last week that this point in the pregnancy isn’t the time to try to strengthen anything. I should be working on loosening and stretching everything to get ready to get baby out. She mentioned that if I want to strengthen anything it would be my inner thighs because that will be helpful when pushing.
In April when my knee pain was at it’s worst I joined the world’s most douche-iest gym (because they had a pool and had the equipment I needed to do my knee physical therapy). At the time I didn’t realize it was the world’s douche-iest gym, but now I do. Because I’m impulsive to the max I signed a year long contract. If my knees heal I’ll be back to ClassPass in a heart beat. Class Pass gives you SO much variety.
Moving in some way does help my mood and my nausea. I feel pretty immobile most of the time and getting blood flowing (even with just stretching) feels nice. Most of the time I spend in the gym is spent sitting on a box jump doing this stretch. That stretch + hip tucks on all fours are my go-tos.
I set up in a corner of the gym that has a door nearby in case I start crying for no reason. I do get a bit frustrated and overwhelmed by how bad my back pain is and how immobile it makes me feel. So it’s nice to have a door nearby if it’s one of the times I just need to go sit and my car and cry. I don’t really mind the crying. Like I believe pregnant women are made to be soft & fleshy, I also know pregnant women are more inclined to cry. Sometimes it’s annoying to cry so much and feel so sad…and other times I can remind myself that this is to be expected and I’m not crying for no reason, it’s just pregnancy and these feelings / reactions are temporary.
The back pain seems to pop up out of nowhere…I’ll be good for a few days and then miserable for a few days. Andrew has been giving me a few lower back massages that REALLY help. Stretching + the hip tucks help too. Swimming doesn’t make it worse, but I haven’t really felt like getting in the pool as much lately. Mainly because if I swim it takes a lot of effort to shower + dry off + get dressed again.
Body Image Stuff
Most conversations about my pregnant belly go:
random person: “How many weeks are you?”
me: “I’m x weeks.”
random person: “Oh you are so tiny! I never would’ve guessed!”
It’s just funny to me how people feel the ultimate compliment they can pay a pregnant woman is to tell her she’s tiny. I feel like a pregnant women shouldn’t be tiny, but should be nice and soft and fleshy. I mentioned this whole scenario to my mom and out of curiosity she asked, “so you’d want someone to come up to you and say ‘you look soft & fleshy.’?” Which made me think. I’m not sure what I want people to say…and I’m sure people say, “you look tiny”, because they don’t know what else to say. I just know that right now feeling soft and fleshy feels right. Being out of breath when I walk up 10 stairs feels right. Waddling when I walk feels right. Feeling tiny wouldn’t feel right and I think it’s really stupid people say it.
At a wedding I attended this weekend someone came up to me and said, “looks like you haven’t been running much.” This is a person from my past who is an acquaintance and clearly this person doesn’t know me and still thinks running is part of my identity when it’s not and hasn’t been for 3+ years. They were kidding. But me (and Andrew who was standing next to me)…didn’t appreciate the comment or find it funny. I explained to the person how bad running actually makes my body feel…and I left it at that. This is just to say, people say really odd things to pregnant women.
In other news, I was talking to Andrew about how my hips and back have more fat on them than they ever have and it’s just new and different…not good or bad…it’s just one of the more drastic body changes that has come with growing a baby. He pointed out that all the new fat packs on my body are supplies for baby once she’s out in the world, which is an excellent way to look at it :)
Raspberry’s size (she’s big!)
At 34 weeks baby girl measured at 6lb 3oz (the 80th percentile for weight). I always imagined I would have a 9lb+ baby (I was 9lbs 6oz when I was born…I have no idea if there is a genetic component involved there). I’ve also heard estimating the weight of a baby by an ultrasound isn’t super accurate and can be +/- a pound, so who knows her actual size.
She feels big to me though! She was head down at our last appointment (Yay, Raz! Way to go and be in the right position!). I can feel her push her legs / feet against my ribs and at the same time feel her head putting a lot of pressure on my pelvic area. I think she’s ready to escape and I think she’s gonna come early. I have no idea why I feel like she’s gonna come early…but I really think she is.
I got a Kristine Brookshire watercolor painting I ADORE! I also ordered some wallpaper samples that I plan on framing. An actual roll of the wallpaper was more pricey than I was comfortable paying, so framing some samples will do! I love following @OhJoy on IG and that is the wallpaper she has in her living room. So gorgeous.
Random things I’ve cried at lately
Yesterday I was at Whole Foods (I hadn’t shopped there in months and it was fun to switch it up) trying to pick out a frozen pizza and I was nauseous so was having trouble making a choice. This lady came up behind me and said, “can I just grab one real quick” (i was in her way). So I said, “oh sure! I’m super indecisive right now. Especially in this season of life.” Then she said, “Girl. I hear you, that 5 month old over there in the shopping cart is mine. I know pregnancy is tough.” And then I cried because YES! Pregnancy is tough sometimes. BUT through the tears I did pick out a pizza and managed to finish grocery shopping.
Picking out hospital / homecoming outfits for baby
Deciding what outfit we will bring her home in has been so fun. Here are my top picks:
I think the lil’ booties (a gift from We All Eat) will be a bit big for a newborn, but I don’t even care. We are so getting a newborn photo in them!! They are the cutest.
We got a rock n’ play.
A million of my friends / family friends have recommended this thing. Any of my moms out there use it?
I think I should probably pack a hospital bag soon. People keeps asking us, “are ya’ll ready?” My response is usually, “I mean, we have all the physical stuff we need. But as far as knowledge of how to be parents to a newborn…we have no earthly idea what we are about to do.” lol
There may or may not be another pregnancy update. We’ll just see what happens! I’m having period like cramps at least a few times a week and what I now realize are some Braxton Hicks. I think neither of those things actually tell us when she will come…but it’s exciting to feel my body practicing to get her out of there.
Next weekend we’re taking some maternity photos. I read somewhere that you should take maternity photos around 30 weeks, but I wanted to wait until I was more bumpalicious + soft & fleshy. So 36 weeks it is!
I leave you with this punny onesie that Molly gave me :)